Mastering the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication

#46: Vanessa Van Edwards, a master of communication, joins Chris to explore the language of human social cues and what it takes to be charismatic. They also cover the impact that the four primary forms of communication (vocal, words, tone, and imagery) can have on your success in communication with business colleagues, friends, and family. 

Vanessa also shares tangible skills to improve interpersonal communication and leadership, including her insights on what makes our communication work. She has developed a science-based framework for understanding different personalities to strengthen our EQ and help us communicate with colleagues, clients, and customers.

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at Science of People. She is also the bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People, which has been translated into 16 languages. More than 50 million people have watched her engaging YouTube tutorials and TEDx Talk. Her much anticipated new book Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication was just released (March 1, 2022).

Selected Links From The Episode

Connect with Vanessa: Website | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube

Vanessa's Books

• Captivate: The Science of succeeding with people
• Cues: Master the secret language of charismatic communication

All the Hacks YouTube Channel

Science of People Charisma Test

Videos

• Vanessa's Ted Talk
• Zoom Fatigue: How to Beat It and Build Your Video Stamina
• How to End a Conversation and Gracefully Exit Any Awkward Situation
• 7 Email Tips to Make Email Suck Less
• Your brain gives 12.5x more weight to hand gestures.

Articles/Research

• Social perceptions of warmth and competence influence behavioral intentions and neural processing
• 16 Amazing Tips to Look Good on Zoom and Webcam Videos

Vanessa's Austin Recommendations

• Best Meal: Loro
• Best Drink: Merit
• Favorite Activity: Paddleboarding on Lady Bird Lake

Full Show Notes

Introduction to the episode guest - Vanessa Van Edwards (02:27)

What is a communication cue and how do they tie into charismatic communication? (02:50)

How would Vanessa define charisma? (05:07)

What positive cues has Vanessa already brought to this interview with Chris in order to be received the way she intended to be? (07:43) 

How vocal cues affect your warmth and competence. (09:27) 

Mistakes in video call cues (11:27) 

Verbal cues and using words that matter. (14:05) 

How to ruin the mood of a virtual meeting right off the bat. (18:19)

How do you gracefully wrap up a conversation with work colleagues or friends? (22:32)

Are cues just as important in our written communication? (23:58)

How to properly outline and transcribe a charismatic email. (28:25)

The practice of scoring your own communication on the balance of uses of warmth versus competence. (32:45)

The Impact of choosing a good background on virtual call and meetings. (33:47)

Hand cues, talking with your hands in a conversation. (36:06)

Rapid fire closing questions. Austin, Texas (39:11)

How to reach Vanessa online and wrapping up the episode with Vanessa Van Edwards (40:34) 

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